ANGER AND GIVING
Kimyan Law Ft. Robert Manos – Run Ames
© 04-2021, Tenerife
If you had a choice between a life full of joy and happiness, or full of anger and resentment, WHAT WOULD YOU CHOOSE?
... Here you are, wishing for a life full of joy and happiness. But now "someone" comes and does something to you.
What does the other person do? - They do what they know best. They abuse/use you.
Why does they do that? - Because that is all they know.
Now you feel hurt and the unpleasant thoughts of anger and resentment are circling in your conscious/subconscious mind and affecting your life in the here and now. Even if this person has moved on long ago, the negative emotions continue to eat you up inside.
What can you do now?
Let's talk about the highest form of giving, FORGIVING.
When someone has wronged or abused us, at first it seems as if that person does not deserve our forgiveness. However, we need to let go of the concept that the gift of forgiveness is for the other person. The act of forgiveness is solely a gift to ourselves.
A gift of freedom (mentally, emotionally and spiritually).
Love your enemies! (Matthäus 5,38‒48)
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
Here is a little guide (all good things come in 3's):
1. Love your own shadow, allow yourself to feel your emotions (we are all human and no one is perfect) and forgive yourself. ("How could I be so stupid/naive?")
2. Take the opportunity to grow from this situation and strengthen your soul, intuition and trust in yourself.
3. Forgive the other person. I know, easier said than done. If you are not ready, start with the willingness to do so. Say to yourself, "I don't know how yet, but I am ready to forgive." This is how you begin to melt your heart and start the process of forgiveness.
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison every day and expecting the other person to die."
- Origin unknown, but quoted by many great personalities -
In fact, this is not just a saying. If you remain in extreme anger for 5 minutes and then take a blood test, it will show that you are chemically poisoned. (!!)
Emotions of anger and resentment do not harm the other person, but yourself. You are slowly killing yourself because you are holding on to a ghost of the past, while the person who caused this in you might have moved on long ago and is living their best life. The only one responsible for your emotions is you, so you are also the only one who can save yourself.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that the other person's actions were okay, that you have to trust that person again, or even let them back into your life. It simply means that you make peace with the situation, learn your lesson and move on with your life in the best way possible, creating the best future for yourself. At first it may seem that the other person does not deserve your blessing, but remember that no one behaves in a cruel way without a reason. They themselves have probably had bad things happen to them in the past, so that they now behave in this way. After all, it's precisely the people who least deserve to be loved, who need it the most. (Sending these from afar is enough).
As long as you are angry, your enemy won.